How To Train Your Child Manner & Respect….Tips To Training Children To Be Intelligent
By Mark Biade
It is widely believed that families are the smallest unit of society. While this is true, I believe children are also important to the society since they eventually will grow into adults and form families of their own. The way a child is raised, therefore, can affect how the child turns out, and would in the long run affect society, either positively or negatively.
Parenting is a skill that can be learned and improved with time. There is no fixed rule on how best to train children as every child is unique and as such, the needs of a child will differ from another. However, there are a few pointers for parents that can help.
- Provide for their needs: As a parent, you should be able to provide for the basic needs of your children. Neglecting these needs can make your child look for them in places that could have a negative effect on him or her. It can also reduce their self-esteem, making them feel inferior to their peers. Before having a child, make sure you have the means to provide for them. This is the first step in training children.
- Spend quality time with them: As much as kids would love to have the latest toys, the latest gadgets, fancy clothes and so much money to spend, they also need you to spend time with them. This doesn’t mean you must spend hours every day with them. You also have a job. However, no matter how busy your schedule seems to be, make out little time for them. Eating breakfast or dinner together, watching your favorite series, a family picnic, or a family trip are just a few examples of how you can spend time with your children. Make an effort to spend some time every day with them, no matter how small.
- Communicate with them: Spending time with your kids creates an opportunity to talk to them. Learn to ask questions. A simple ‘how was your day?’ shows interest. Communication can help you understand their feelings and to know what they pass through in school. Through communication, you can teach your children, listen to their problems and help them.
- Learn to discipline: It is important you know why discipline is necessary, how to discipline, and when to discipline. Appropriate discipline serves to correct your child. It should be done with love. Discipline could be in the form of punishment, certain restrictions or sometimes words of disappointment, depending on the circumstances. Learn to know when discipline is necessary and when it should be done.
- Be expressive in showing love and care: Words of encouragement help build your child’s confidence. When your child does something nice, let him know. Show you appreciate their kind gestures. Let them feel appreciated and valued. A simple ‘thank you’ goes a long way in making your child happy. Remember to also show care through physical contact. A gentle kiss before going to sleep, a warm hug or a pat on the back might just be all they need.